James Story

It is finally done!! So this is something I have been working on. I had the privilege of interviewing my friend James  I am grateful that he took the time out of his day to speak to me and to share a part of him and his story. I talk a lot about the importance of sharing stories and how stories have the ability to change lives, build community, connection and provide moments of realization that we are not alone in our pain and struggle AND there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Things do get better. I ask that you listen to this podcast with an open heart and an open mind. That you forgive me for the bad quality of sound in the beginning but that you stick through it because the sound does get better (It’s my first interview ever so please be nice haha)

Here’s a description of our talk :
“I dove into a part of my friend James story and journey in life; Drinking and driving leading to a tragic loss. James transparently discusses personal struggles, hurts, his journey of healing and what he continues to do to heal from his past and care for himself. Choosing love over fear, choosing love over negativity.”

I pray that this resonates with a lot of you out there. That it touches your heart, inspires conversation, and creates a space and environment of hope, healing, love, and community. I hope that this inspires many of my friends and family to take the time to get to know strangers and their stories and that it gives you the courage to share your story.

Stories change lives

And if you’d love to be a part of this project and share your story, message me!

xo

Setbacks of life 

I read a great article a month or so ago that really inspired me. It’s titled “How I got through the worst days of my life (so far) by Shane Snow.

Here’s the article: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/how-i-got-through-worst-days-my-life-so-far-shane-snow

As the title already explains, this individual writes about how he got through the worst days of his life. After reading this article I can say that I learned a few things, was reminded of others, and was reassured that regardless of the struggle, we can all manage to get through it.

As I’m sure you all know, we all have rough periods in life due to differing circumstances. Sometimes I find it encouraging to hear about someone else’s struggles and how they managed to get through it. Not because I wish bad upon anyone but because it becomes a source of inspiration and drive for me to get through my own personal struggles. I’m reminded that if they can get through it I can get through it too.

What I found fascinating is that the writer is an owner of a successful business and due to personal circumstances ends up homeless and unable to afford getting his own place. What fascinated me about this bit of information was that I honestly would have never guessed that a business owner with a running business could end up homeless. It’s just not something that would come to mind.  It’s so common for our perception of others to be skewed. The reality is that we all struggle just as much as any other person does. Rough patches in life happen to everyone regardless of how much they make or don’t make, no matter how well off we perceive them to be, regardless of skin color, gender, age, race, education, sexual orientation, etc. Struggle doesn’t pick and choose.

Sometimes I am so focused on what I am going through that I forget that everyone I know has something that they are going through.

As I continued to read, I came across a valuable lesson that I have slowly learned in life which is not to be afraid to seek help and let those close to us know what’s going on. You’d be surprised how helpful they can be. Man have I learned this the hard way. Sweeping things under the rug just makes us more vulnerable for continued hurt and struggle.

This next one I’m about to mention is one I am still learning and it is that

Struggle is all about perspective.

We can choose to let life’s battles keep us down or we can choose to get up and keep moving forward. It’s all a choice regardless of our circumstances. We can sit around and mope all day or we can make the decision to do something about it. I know it’s hard to do something about it. I know it’s difficult to find the energy and motivation to keep taking those steps forward when all you keep doing is getting knocked down. One thing to remember is that time continues to move forward regardless of what we do. I have always said that I rather keep taking those steps forward and failing then sitting back , giving up to my crappy in the moment circumstance and 3 days, 1 month, 5 years later being exactly where I was that first day.

We all have setbacks. We just all respond to them very differently.

 It’s not that someone else has had it worse that helps; it’s that someone else has gotten through it.  – Shane Snow

I leave you with two wonderful points that Shane Snow mentions in his article. I think these three points are great reminders to write down and hang up on your wall so you can read them everyday!

“It’s going to hurt. And that’s okay.”

Allow yourself to feel everything you’re feeling right now,” she told me. “Let the hurt move through you. Then you can move on.”

There is no sense in avoiding pain because it only prolongs it. The final is…

“By coming together and supporting one another, we can bounce forward and find joy again.

**A side note: I went ahead and purchased the book “Option B Facing Adversity, building resilience, and finding joy” by Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant because I was really interested in reading the book for myself after reading the article I mentioned above. I plan on posting blogs inspired by what I read and after reading the end of chapter one I can’t help but end this entry with the amazing bit of knowledge the writers friend shares with her.

Sometimes in life we have our eyes set on Option A and for whatever reason it just doesn’t work out. We fixate on wanting Option A even if we can’t have it and Sheryl Sandberg goes on to say that her friend reminded her that “Option A is not available. So let’s just kick the shit out of Option B.”