“When things go wrong as they sometimes will,

When the road you’re trudging seems all up hill,

When the funds are low and the debts are high

And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,

When care is pressing you down a bit,

Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is strange with its twists and turns

As every one of us sometimes learns

And many a failure comes about

When he might have won had he stuck it out;

Don’t give up though the pace seems slow—

You may succeed with another blow.

Success is failure turned inside out—

The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,

And you never can tell just how close you are,

It may be near when it seems so far;

So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit—

It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.”

– By John Greenleaf Whittier

From Thoughts to Destiny

As we go through our struggles , there comes a moment (at least for me) where I feet stuck. As if I was on a merry go round of ups and downs with the same crappy things happening over and over again. I came across this quote that really changed my perspective on things. I have included different variations of the same concept. The end result of our lives start with our thoughts!

“Watch your thoughts, they become words;
watch your words, they become actions;
watch your actions, they become habits;
watch your habits, they become character;
watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”

Late President of the Bi-Lo Stores

The only way to change repeating circumstances in our lives is by doing something different, and that all begins with our thoughts. If we believe that we cannot do something, than guess what? We will not be able to do it. But if we believe that we can, and we wake up every morning believing that things can change and will change, than that’s when change will begin to take place.

So for this week, be conscious of your thoughts. Be mindful of what you are telling yourself over and over again and if you realize that your thoughts are full of negativity, switch it up. Don’t dwell on that negativity because as the quote goes, your thoughts trickle down and become your character. And if that is not who you want to be than start at the core with your thoughts. Start thinking of positive things that are going to happen no matter how unrealistic it may seem and I can promise you that things will begin to change. Maybe not right away or overnight, but with time they will. Once your thoughts change, everything else will follow.

The thought manifests as the word,

The word manifests as the deed,
The deed develops into habit,
And the habit hardens into character.
So watch the thought and its way with care,
And let it spring from love
Born out of concern for all beings.



We are what we think.
All that we are arises with our thoughts.
With our thoughts we make the world.
Speak or act with an impure mind
And trouble will follow you
As the wheel follows the ox that draws the cart.



“Watch your thoughts, they become words;
watch your words, they become actions;
watch your actions, they become habits;
watch your habits, they become character;
watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”

Late President of the Bi-Lo Stores

And if anyone finds the writer of these quotes, please let me know so I can give them credit.

Fix me ups

Things that are fixed half assed tend to find a way of always breaking themselves once again. If someone needs stitches, a band-aid isn’t going to really do much if anything at all.

This week I’ve been working with mothers who have gone through so much pain and hurt from their past and present. They have been unwilling/unable to make the necessary changes needed to heal and overcome the different challenges they are facing. Failing to understand that by doing so, they will be so much better off. Of course they can’t see it because they are in the middle of it. I couldn’t see it either when I was going through hard times.

It’s hard to see the end of the storm when it’s raging all around you. 

People tend to focus on the negative and the hopelessness of a situation but we need to continue to fill ourselves with hope and determination to keep on keeping on.

One particular mother chatted with me today and told me how she wanted to end her life. How she couldn’t take it anymore and thought that the best solution was to leave this world and avoid dealing with everything. The thing is that by leaving this world, not only do we fail to overcome our challenge, we also miss out on the many beautiful opportunities life is waiting to give us.

I can remember many occasions in my life that I sat there completely checked out and over it all. I’ve felt like I was drowning, barely keeping my head above water. I’ve struggled so much to stay afloat that I couldn’t do much of anything else. I’ve had moments in life that I’ve tried to commit suicide because I didn’t see any other solution. But from experience I can say that if I made it, you can make it too. I no longer get suicidal thoughts. I haven’t had a suicidal thought pop into my head for over a decade. I still get in moments of feeling down where I feel like I’m just over everything but to me I have come a long way and that in itself is a huge accomplishment.


This illustration I came across on dA is a beautiful example of what it feels like to be overwhelmed and drowning.

Emotional Overload

Emotional Overload by Len-Yan


That’s why it is crucial to work on yourself. When you feel this much hurt inside, this much confusion, take a step back and help yourself get through it by working on you and healing from any past/present hurt you may be going through.

Remember that you are an amazing person and will do amazing things. Remember your worth and take a day at a time because it will get better.