From an end to a new beginning

Sometimes you come across really great life changing books. Some of mine have been “The Alchemist – by Paulo Coelho” , “The Wait – by DeVon Franklin” and “Battlefield of the Mind – By Joyce Meyer.” I’ve read some books that have helped me grow but these three that I mentioned definitely made an impact on my life.

Adding to that list is a recent book I’ve been reading called “Option B Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy – by Sheryl  Sandberg and Adam Grant”

I read a great article a while back that inspired me to purchase the book. The article was titled “How I got through the worst days of my life (so far) by Shane Snow.

Here’s the article: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/how-i-got-through-worst-days-my-life-so-far-shane-snow

And I wrote a blog post about that article and how it inspired me here: https://healingbrokenheartsproject.com/2017/05/16/setbacks-of-life/

This is definitely a book I’d love to read a few times through. At the moment I am finishing up Chapter 5 (halfway through the book) and I came across a great quote:

“Every new beginning comes from some other beginnings end.” – Roman philosopher Seneca

How true is that. I mean , I guess growing up I always had a really hard time with things ending. Friendships, jobs, relationships, passions, you name it. It always felt so absolute and tragic. After reading this chapter, I learned that it’s all about perspective and the end of something isn’t necessarily bad because it just means it’s the beginning of something else. We can choose to let our experiences sink us to the bottom of the lake or we can let our experiences become stepping stones to help us get to the other side.

Bear with me through this tough hump here but in this chapter the writer talks about post-traumatic growth, which in a nutshell is how people who are faced with a traumatic event can bounce forward. Psychologist found that some people respond to trauma by developing PTSD (Post-traumatic stress disorder) and face debilitating depression and anxiety, others would respond by being resilient and would bounce back to their state before trauma and even others would bounce forward.

Now what does bounce forward mean? Well the writer goes to explain that post-traumatic growth are people who grow from tragedy.

This seems to happen in 5 different ways per Joe Kaspers findings:

-Finding personal strength

-Gaining Appreciation

-Forming Deeper relationships

-Discovering More meaning in life

-Seeing new possibilities

Now I know a lot of you may think how in the world can I find any good from my loved one dying, being murdered, raped, insert traumatic experience here, and I would just ask that you please read Chapter 5 of Option B because it really goes into a beautiful explanation of each one and how if we’re ready, we can get through our trauma to see the other side.

Hence “Every new beginning comes from some other beginnings end.” 

;  (The Semicolon project has that same vibe)

It doesn’t have to end at the trauma or tragedy in your life. Instead of the book ending, that “end” can be a catalyst to a new beginning.

Let’s not end the book but start a new chapter instead… 

 

 

 

Life full of peace or stress?

I was reading an article today about the importance of peace in ones life. What drew me in was the realization that a life full of turmoil to many may seem very normal and everyday. The article went on to say that a life full of peace can be seen as boring since most of us are used to constant drama of sorts and/or stress in our lives.

I can relate to that to an extent. I struggle getting up early in the morning. I’m not a morning person but I sleep well enough to get up at 6am.  I’ve noticed I struggle getting up at that time but if I did I would have a ton of free time before work. If i were to get up early I wouldn’t be running around and rushing to get ready and eat breakfast. Which means I would get A LOT done and have less stress.

Sounds great right?

The thing is for some odd reason  there’s an unconscious part of me that feels really uncomfortable about not feeling stressed or not running around to get things done. I strive off of working under pressure.

Double edged sword.

I hate being stressed but love running around and rushing. Being and staying busy.  It’s become such a norm for me to function under stress that I’ve lost the ability to function without it. It’s like I don’t know what to do with myself but after reading that article I realized I need to learn to work and function under peace AND it’s totally okay and shouldn’t be seen as boring or uneventful!

Now the media is full of constant drama, headaches, heartaches, stress, How to’s on learning to multitask and rush around better and maybe that’s why we feel the need to live our lives on the go, rush rush rushing everywhere. Maybe that’s why when we manage our time well and have nothing to do we freak out.

But I feel we weren’t meant to live those kinds of lives and we would be so much happier if we learned to be more peaceful.

For the sake of defining peace and stress, peace is defined as “free from disturbance; tranquil” and stress is defined as “a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances.” I don’t know about you but I most certainly prefer peace!

Now I know that life will always be full of ups and downs and moments of stress we may not be able to help but I think there are many areas of our lives that can be changed around a bit to be full of more peace, joy and happiness. To those out there with similar struggles, let’s learn to live a life full of peace. It doesn’t mean we are living a boring life but a smarter and more enjoyable one!

I’d love to know what anyone else thinks about the matter