From an end to a new beginning

Sometimes you come across really great life changing books. Some of mine have been “The Alchemist – by Paulo Coelho” , “The Wait – by DeVon Franklin” and “Battlefield of the Mind – By Joyce Meyer.” I’ve read some books that have helped me grow but these three that I mentioned definitely made an impact on my life.

Adding to that list is a recent book I’ve been reading called “Option B Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy – by Sheryl  Sandberg and Adam Grant”

I read a great article a while back that inspired me to purchase the book. The article was titled “How I got through the worst days of my life (so far) by Shane Snow.

Here’s the article:

And I wrote a blog post about that article and how it inspired me here:

This is definitely a book I’d love to read a few times through. At the moment I am finishing up Chapter 5 (halfway through the book) and I came across a great quote:

“Every new beginning comes from some other beginnings end.” – Roman philosopher Seneca

How true is that. I mean , I guess growing up I always had a really hard time with things ending. Friendships, jobs, relationships, passions, you name it. It always felt so absolute and tragic. After reading this chapter, I learned that it’s all about perspective and the end of something isn’t necessarily bad because it just means it’s the beginning of something else. We can choose to let our experiences sink us to the bottom of the lake or we can let our experiences become stepping stones to help us get to the other side.

Bear with me through this tough hump here but in this chapter the writer talks about post-traumatic growth, which in a nutshell is how people who are faced with a traumatic event can bounce forward. Psychologist found that some people respond to trauma by developing PTSD (Post-traumatic stress disorder) and face debilitating depression and anxiety, others would respond by being resilient and would bounce back to their state before trauma and even others would bounce forward.

Now what does bounce forward mean? Well the writer goes to explain that post-traumatic growth are people who grow from tragedy.

This seems to happen in 5 different ways per Joe Kaspers findings:

-Finding personal strength

-Gaining Appreciation

-Forming Deeper relationships

-Discovering More meaning in life

-Seeing new possibilities

Now I know a lot of you may think how in the world can I find any good from my loved one dying, being murdered, raped, insert traumatic experience here, and I would just ask that you please read Chapter 5 of Option B because it really goes into a beautiful explanation of each one and how if we’re ready, we can get through our trauma to see the other side.

Hence “Every new beginning comes from some other beginnings end.” 

;  (The Semicolon project has that same vibe)

It doesn’t have to end at the trauma or tragedy in your life. Instead of the book ending, that “end” can be a catalyst to a new beginning.

Let’s not end the book but start a new chapter instead… 




Plagued thoughts

I came across a gorgeous photo on dA that I couldn’t help but sketch and for whatever reason this photo touched my heart. The photo is titled “Plague” and it made me really think about my day today.

Today was one of those days where I was extremely overwhelmed. A day when nothing felt like it was going right. Where my mind wanted to repeat everything that continued to go wrong making me feel like nothing was going to get better.

A day where my thoughts easily consumed me and made me forget my purpose for fighting.

A pity party day.

 A day where I wanted to feel loved but felt alone.

 A day where I called my friend to say hi and they were conveniently busy, my friends weren’t  around, and everything seemed to annoy me.

And that photo I sketched made me think of my day today. Of that feeling of suffocation, of hopelessness, of being consumed by negativity.

Luckily for me my morning study by Joyce Meyer was themed “The power of our thoughts” and she spoke about how important it is to pretty much karate chop and dump out all that junk that tries to live in our head. It’s truly a constant battle of replacing the bad with the good.  The negative with the positive!

So what did I do? Just that! I worked out for a little, organized myself, created a routine and to do list for the day, stretched, and drew and kept replacing bad thoughts with good. I was doing great but then my friend sent me a text that I misinterpreted and got upset about. (Even our loved ones can push us off track sometimes accidentally) so I took some time to get back on track and think positive.

I was doing great once again then a coworker mentioned something that reminded me for the umteenth time that I didn’t like my job. For a while I had a pity party and poor me moment. Then I realized I needed to get my thoughts back on track and decided that instead of complaining I was going to start applying to jobs.

So today although I felt like I was suffocating and had to duke it out with some of the thoughts going through my head, I learned a valuable lesson…

That our mind is very powerful and can convince us of things that aren’t true “I’m never going to get a job I like”, “I’m never going to get married or fall in love” “I suck” etc. The important thing to remember is those negative thoughts aren’t true! You will amount to something amazing. You will find someone. YOU WILL (fill in the blank )

I am lucky and blessed that God is there every step of the way guiding me and helping me get through it.

And as Joyce Meyer said

“It is never too late to begin again”