Episode 6: Podcast: Missy’s Story

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In todays episode I get an opportunity to speak to the amazing Missy and we discuss her journey in life with depersonalization. We dive into her hardships, the challenges and frustrations with the current mental health field, and her dreams and goals of bringing a change to a current culture that doesn’t support the needs of mental health let alone those diagnosed and/or struggling with depersonalization, all forms of anxiety, depression, etc.

For those that do not know … Depersonalization is an anxiety-triggered feeling of being cut off from reality. It manifests in various ways but the most common symptoms are:

feeling as though you are in some sort of dream state, as though you or the people around you are not real, as though you have become detached from the world; as though you are watching your thoughts, feelings and physical self, from outside of yourself; as though you are not in control of your speech or your physical movements.**

So tune in and take a listen. Missy’s story is a beautiful example on how important community and/or family support are and how even through our struggles we can perservere

RESOURCES SHARED DURING THE PODCAST:

https://www.heysigmund.com/depersonalization-silent-epidemic-shaun-oconnor/?fbclid=IwAR08_hs8llEMLkEkoRh-JIJimgNyjO_LeEPteKSjtt8G_7BcD35wZX-pVWs  **(Also the resource of the definition of depersonalization above)

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/depersonalization-how-to-recover-from-it-ft-shaun-oconnor/id1396317476?i=1000433591529

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Searching for love

I’ve gone through this phase in life where I’ve searched for the idea of LOVE. Fantasized about how wonderful it would be to be surrounded by infinite amounts of love with no strings attached.

I’ve been watching a lot of romantic comedies lately and began to reflect on the beauty of romance films.

Are they too far fetched? Do they paint a reality of love that doesn’t exist?

For a while growing up, I used to think they did. I used to believe that the reason why relationships were so skewed, messed up, and bound to fail is because movies and the entertainment industry painted love and relationships to be so effortless and so “perfect.” But I believed the reality was that love and relationships take a lot of hard work and are far from perfect. I used to hear stories of people in relationships that just flowed, just like in the romance movies and I thought they were bullshit. There was no way that a relationship could be that simple.

As I was watching my romance films this past week I couldn’t help but think, what if romance novels are a true portrayal of what love should be like. Just simply flow and click and what if people are the ones that complicated love and added all these rules and stipulations making it a bigger mess then it was meant to be.

I grew up thinking that if someone said I love you and you just met them, or an allotted amount of time hadn’t gone by then that meant they were:

desperate, needy, crazy, clingy, obsessed, etc.

But why? I think I grew up thinking those things because of how it was painted to me in the entertainment industry with the movies that weren’t all about romance but betrayal, dishonesty, cheating, lying, and DRAMA.

I remember that if someone said those three words too soon it was game over, but if they didn’t say it soon enough then that meant they didn’t care. If you saw a couple showing an absurd amount of PDA then you felt grossed out by it thinking things along the lines of “get a room, their relationship is fake, it won’t last long, they’re in the honeymoon stage” and if they didn’t show any PDA then something was just as wrong.

How did we get to a place where Love had rules and needed to fall into specific categories, check off certain boxes, and be portrayed a certain way to be considered LOVE. Love is meant to flow like a river at it’s own pace, own rhythm, in it’s own time.

Not boxed and categorized by us but instead left alone to be free and flow.

People are so afraid to let love enter their hearts because that means there is more opportunity to get hurt and broken hearted. Yet it’s the very thing we all seek the most, to be loved. Love I believe is the very core of what we are called to be in life ; loving. Yet it’s the very thing that’s greatly misunderstood.

Love is a lot simpler than we make it and although it’s multifaceted and complex in its own way, I believe the complexity lies in how we define love and how we shape it.

Love was meant to be free. Free of rules. Free of regulations. Free of requirements. Free of hatred. Free of expectations. Free of confusion.

Love was never meant to be placed in a box but instead was called to be untethered and free.

 

Episode 5 – Podcast : Wasem’s Story

Episode 5 is here!!!! It’s actually been here for a bit but I forgot to share it on our website.

Sooo … If you haven’t already, check out Episode 5 where I interview @wasem1. The link is here!!  ❤️ You can also find the episode on @spotify and ITunes under HealingBrokenHeartsProject.
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Born in Afghanistan and raised in the States, we dive into the struggles Wasem faced living in two very different yet beautiful cultures. Sharing monumental moments in his life, we discuss those who greatly impacted him and influenced who he is today. Meet Wasem.

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Loving Acceptance

“Love does not begin and end like we think it does. Love is a battle, Love is a war,love is growing up” -James Baldwin.

We are brought into this world only ever knowing one type of love, the love from our parents, the love of a family. Our father shows us strength, hard work and motivation, our mother shows us compassion,beauty, passion and in turn we find perseverance, confidence, and happiness. But not all of us in this universe are so lucky to be given this type of love we are so destined to have.

We as individuals have a different story in all of us that sets us apart. Whatever life we are given, the lack of one parent or both, we each find a way to figure out how our story ends and what we make of it. Some of us look to others for adoration for acceptance.

But the one kind of love that can never be taken, the one kind of love that can only be altered or defeated is that of ourselves.

Your heart, your soul can hold love for each and every substance or being that this world could offer, but it can’t ever be true or real unless you love yourself first. To love yourself is to believe that your are a fighter, to believe that you can overcome and that everything is possible, to smile at your hard work and believe you did your best, to stand up for your beliefs no matter the opinions of another, to accept the opinion of another but to still be true to who you are. To keep pushing forward no matter what gravity has in store. To never give up, no matter the struggle.

To love yourself is where confidence,compassion,beauty, motivation and strength comes from.

We are not all lucky to have have had teachings passed down to us, but that is what life is for. We are so lucky to have what is around to mold into what we are destined to be.

It all starts within ourselves, harness your power, believe in the impossible, and push forward to your tomorrow.

Love is a beautiful thing and those who are willing to search will be given the key you,yourself are holding.

” If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell will you learn to love someone or something else.” Ru Paul.

-Article written by Andy E. for Healing Broken Hearts Project


		

Just Not Today..

“Just Not Today” something that Nicole mentioned in our interview. A really unique way to process negative thoughts and feelings we may behave struggling with.
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The idea is that you keep telling yourself day by day “Just not today.” Whether your thoughts are quitting on life, giving up on a dream, giving in to an addiction; whatever it may be… Just not today.
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If you haven’t already, take a listen to my interview with Nicole where we chat a bit on the idea behind this phrase. Xoxo love you guys. .

 

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Vulnerability

Vulnerability …
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I’ll be 31 in a few months and in this photo I was about 1 or 2 years old. I was sitting here reflecting on my life realizing that when my parents brought me into this world, I don’t think they ever imagined I would have gone through all that I went through and be where I am today.
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I reminisced on my childhood days when I cried over heartaches, breakups, bullies in school and sit here today realizing how all of those moments are nothing but a memory now. Things of the past that shaped me yet no longer faze me.
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It’s funny to think that we live through moments in our lives that seem to be the end of the world only to live a few more years and realize it’s not. Realize that we are a lot more resilient than we give ourselves credit for. Realize that things do genuinely get better as we live through experiences and work on bettering ourselves as individuals.
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I struggled with being vulnerable. Of opening my heart up to the unknown and allowing myself to want something so badly. Bc wanting something that bad meant if I didn’t get it then I was setting myself up to hurt. I love hard and passionately and with that level of vulnerability comes the risk of hurting.
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But here’s the thing I realized today and now realize God has kept pushing and teaching me to understand. Life means so much more when you choose to be vulnerable because it’s better to be vulnerable and get hurt or fail then to sit on the side lines doing absolutely nothing at all. I don’t ever want to look back at life and say “if I only would have tried.”
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Life is meant to be lived to its fullness. We are meant to try and fail and get up and try again. That’s how change comes about. That’s how the greatest inventions are created. That’s how people become inspired and life changing movements begin. By those who chose to get up time and time again and fight through success and failures. By those who decided they weren’t just going to be a spectator in life sitting around criticizing everything everyone else was doing but deciding themselves to do nothing at all.
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I don’t know about you but I don’t want to live a timid life that doesn’t know defeat or victory.