One thing I’ve been learning over time is the importance of loving yourself. In order to heal, you have to learn to love YOU. You have to be able to love who you are, laugh with yourself, be proud of yourself of where you are going, where you’ve been, and where you are. Once you love yourself, no one can take that away from you. It’s when we don’t love ourselves that we can hurt and be hurt by others.
We tend to gravitate towards people who we feel can provide us with things that we may lack. Which can then cause us to depend on them supplying that need. If we feel insecure then we feed on compliments. We may compare ourselves to others. May even be angry or mean towards others for having something we feel we lack. If we feel alone we may feed on companionship. May constantly want to be around people and depend on their attention. Now those are just examples but they reflect downfalls of not loving yourself.
Don’t get me wrong, all of those things are amazing! I love compliments, companionship, sometimes attention,etc. I’m not saying having all these things are bad, just that it all needs to be balanced and at the end of the day, if you love yourself the lack of attention, compliments, companionship won’t affect you the same way that it would if you didn’t love yourself or didn’t realize how amazing and worthy you are.